2011年5月25日 星期三

做媽媽真大壓力!

香港社會競爭性很大,香港小朋友的教育方面已經表露無遺。雖然寶寶現在只有八個月大,我已經充分感受到現今媽媽和寶寶的壓力。例如去展覽隨時被人sell數萬元的教材套,讓我的寶寶「贏在起跑點」,不會落後於人;又例如身邊的人告訴我,某某幼稚園太主張愉快學習了,如果送寶寶入讀,需要為她安排補習班;又例如要把寶寶送到名校區上幼稚園,即使來回車程可能達兩小時!

近來,只是針對語言發展方面,我都已經面對不同的問題:
  • 父母應該用全英語和寶寶溝通嗎?
  • 日常應該讓寶寶看DVD學英文嗎?
  • 應該儘早讓寶寶學習多種語言嗎?
  • 應該買教材讓寶寶看英文嗎?
因此,今晚上了一課「孩子口齒伶俐有辦法」的講座,言語治療師呂亦宜小姐有兩點是說得非常好的,在此和大家分享:
  • 父母的角色是輔助寶寶發展,而非「幫助」寶寶發展。我們希望「幫」小朋友學某些方法,其實是會添加壓力給小朋友,令學習﹝語言﹞不是樂趣
  • 當身邊的人做很多的事時,父母很容易怕自己做得不足而虧欠了寶寶;這時候要對自己的決定有信心,最重要是付出了最大的努力,資源和時間便可以,沒有父母能做到完美
第二點也不止一個媽媽對我分享過。要對自己的各樣育兒決定有信心,媽媽非有過人的自信不可。我唯有持續學習,做一個學習型自信媽媽!

7 則留言:

  1. Agree with the 2nd pt. Nothing is perfect and no one is perfect. The most important pt is you've done your best and that's enough.

    Some say, one parent speaks Cantonese and the other one speaks English at home and for the rest of your life. The kid won't be confused with the language spoken.

    I did let my girls watch quality English videos/DVDs like "The Wiggles", "Hi 5", "Barney" and some other DVDs from Australia/ the US. You don't have to spend alot. Just ordinary English DVDs. Cheap and effective. Kids learn colloquial English and listening. I'd say "The wiggles" is good. I won't spend more than $120 for a DVD though. Don't but the Disney learning pack. Parents are the best teachers. Those materials are only trying to get money from your wallet.

    I don't speak English at home, so my girls are so and so. However, my younger daughter studied in a Mandarin/ Eng class at kindergarten, and she's good at Mandarin (with very nice accent). Learning at early seems to work but bear in mind that you have to provide a suitable language environment. So, I don't agree with those who put the kids in learning centre once a week to learn French/ Spanish/ Japanese....etc. I don't think it works. One has to use the language on a daily basis.

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  2. Dont "buy" Disney Language learning pack.....
    Learning at early age seems to work.....

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  3. 多謝你在敝blog的留言。
    現今社會上真的很多千奇百怪關於孩子教育成長的現象,我們當家長的很多時都很困惑,所以我希望可以把一些大家可能已經忘記了的基本概念分享分享,讓孩子可以健康快樂成長。
    很高興認識你,日後多多交流!
    謝謝,evianh2o.blogspot.com

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  4. Trust your instinct, evianh2o.

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  5. 我無打算買教材,無打算對寶寶講英文(因為我覺得我的廣東話好過我的英文)。我見到很多父母動機出於希望寶寶英文好些,而錯誤用了不同方法,又或是太緊張,可能有反效果呢。最重要是,我不希望自己和寶寶的相處永遠purpose-driven,純粹享受一起的時光,不是更好嗎。

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  6. Karina 你介意講你細女讀邊間幼稚園嗎?hehe

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  7. St. Cat. Both my daughters studied there. I think it's too expensive now, however, kids do have happy school life there.

    I agree with you that many parents speak "horribe" English with their kids. But I think it's a good idea that you read English story books to Prudence from now on. Not purpose-driven but for fun.

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